OPINION: What are you, a girl?
I’m on a supermarket checkout line, standing behind a man of perhaps 35 and, I assume, his son, who appears to be about 6. The little boy is not happy. Actually, he’s crying — not sniffling, not wailing — just audibly crying. His father ignores him for a few minutes, and then leans over and asks the boy, in the mildest tone of disapproval, “What’re you crying for? You’re crying just like a little girl. Are you a little girl?”
His son continues to cry, but more quietly.
First I think, this kid won’t have to wait another ten or twelve years for some football coach or drill sergeant to bellow these misogynistic cues into his ear — he’s getting them right now, at 6, from his dad, almost as a fatherly expression of concern. Then I ask myself, if it were the man’s 6-year-old daughter crying, would he really say to her, “go ahead, cry. It’s okay, you’re a girl”?