A crowd of people who gathered to see former First Lady Michelle Obama at Barclays Center on Saturday night saw another side of her.

Talking about women and marriage and referencing the old idea that “you can have it all,” she said “that shit doesn’t work.” She soon apologized for using the word, saying that “I thought we were at home, y’all. I was getting real comfortable up in here.”

Joined by poet Elizabeth Alexander, Obama continued her “Becoming” book tour with a conversation about some of the revelations in her book, including her and Barack Obama’s experiences in marriage counseling, according to Vanity Fair.

In addition to the heavier topics, Michelle Obama talked about some of her happiest White House moments, such as the night she and daughter Malia sneaked out to see the rainbow lights on the day the Supreme Court passed marriage equality, Vanity Fair said.

She also praised the late President George H.W. Bush, saying that he and his relatives became like family to the Obamas.