Oh Orly: Week of January 15

January 15, 2014 Orly Amor
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Oh Orly!

When I take the train to work and see an elderly person or pregnant woman, I am always the one that gives up my seat if I have one. But when I am standing and see the other people sitting not get up, I want to say something. Should I?

Josephine Q.

Coney Island

Dear Josephine,

You are so kind. I know exactly what you’re talking about. I definitely agree with saying something, especially if a young person is sitting down and the elderly or pregnant person is standing right next to him or her.

There is a polite way to say it: “Excuse me? Would you mind getting up and letting this elderly lady or pregnant woman have a seat?” If the person responds in a nasty way, then leave it alone and don’t take it personally.

Most of the time, you will come across kind people who will get up. Sometimes it’s not obvious to the people sitting down because they are texting or looking at their iPhone or iPod or just have a lot on their minds, or are not thinking straight at that moment.

So it’s okay to just say something. I hope you continue doing what you’re doing and that this advice helps you help other people.

Take care!


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